Navigating Relationship Dynamics: How to Respond When Someone Asks What They Find Attractive About You

Relationships can sometimes bring about awkward situations, one of which can be how to respond when your partner or friend asks you what they find attractive about you. This question can be straightforward or surprisingly awkward, but it’s important to handle it in a way that maintains your comfort and the health of your relationship. Let's dive into different scenarios and strategies for your response.

Handling Awkwardness with Humor

One potential response might be:

No but I do know I could hold your interest so you would never be bored again, my love! Laugh and say, “So go on, tell me what I find interesting about you,”

This humorous response not only lightens the mood but also ensures that the conversation remains fun and interesting. It's a way to keep things playful and avoid any tension that might arise from a serious or uncomfortable question.

Keeping It Simple and Respectful

Another approach is to be honest and straightforward, as demonstrated by:

If someone said “Do you know what I found more interesting about you” to me, I’d probably either make a feeble joke, which usually doesn’t work, or just tell them the truth. No, I don’t know what they find interesting about me. That’s it. I don’t need to add that I’m honored or dismayed that they’re thinking about me at all, or anything beyond a polite yes or no. When someone asks me a simple question, I prefer to give a simple answer. No subtext, no conjecture, I stay direct because in the long run, it’s better that way.

By keeping your response simple and to the point, you avoid any unnecessary conjecture or over-analysis. This approach helps in maintaining a comfortable and honest conversation. If they are being nice, you can quickly get the compliment out of the way and move on to a more comfortable topic. If they are being sleazy or manipulative, you don’t have to make it easy for them to proceed.

Maintaining Lightness with Humor

In situations where simple responses might not be adequate, you can always add a touch of humor. For example:

No I don’t. What is it?

And if they keep insisting, you might say something like:

This is not the time to be serious! answer something like “My cute little finger” or “my cute elbows”

Even if you don’t think that bit of you is cute. It’ll probably be better if it’s something you really don’t think is cute because you'll see the funny side too, and you'll be able to carry off the humor.

Then they can tell you what they really wanted to tell you but were too shy to just come out with it. Humor can help to ease the tension and turn a potentially awkward moment into a light and engaging conversation.

Ultimately, the key is to find a balance between being truthful, respectful, and keeping the conversation light and enjoyable. Use humor to your advantage, and always prioritize maintaining a fun and healthy relationship dynamic.