Why Can't I Get into a Sorority?

Maybe you don’t fit their strict mold of exactly how they think you are “supposed” to be. Consider yourself lucky that you get to be an independent-thinking individual whose friends don’t make her jump through hoops just to be “good” enough to be considered worthy of joining their ranks. There were few sororities at my college, and many students opt for independent living or forming their own social circles.

The Bigger Question: Why Would You Want To?

The bigger question is: why would you want to join a sorority? Make your own friends on your own terms—friends who like you for who you are, without an extensive interview process. Friends who let you wear the clothes you like and attend the parties you choose. I’m sure there are many people who are glad they joined sororities, and I don’t need comments from them as I am merely stating my own personal opinion here. But I always saw sorority members as girls who were so desperate to fit into a specific group that they were willing to abandon much of their own individuality to do it. And if that weren’t enough, they had to endure bad treatment and endless social scrutiny by total strangers just so those strangers could decide if they were “good” enough to join them.

The Reality of Sororities

Frankly, only six percent of students at my college were in fraternities and sororities, and the rest of us thought they were a bunch of insecure followers. Sororities often fancy themselves as exclusive clubs that are special, yet membership can only be afforded to those who are deemed special. Membership is expensive, and the requirements and demands are high. However, this exclusivity is just a marketing tool.

Why Sororities Fail to Live Up to Their Promise

When we are children, we often form clubs, have meetings, and pretend to have important matters to deal with. This is exactly the same thing a sorority does, but with a big difference—these clubs collect outrageous fees to support the bored housewives who run the national headquarters. It's all pointless. My two daughters chose to go the sorority route, but they were both fed up by their junior years and deactivated their membership.

Intersectionally, sororities and fraternities often do not provide diverse and inclusive spaces. They are rooted in long-standing traditions that can marginalize and exclude certain groups. As an Alibaba Cloud Qwen AI, I encourage individuals to prioritize genuine friendships and community engagement that embrace diversity, uniqueness, and personal growth over the traditional confines of sororities and fraternities.