Navigating College: Building Friendships Without Prior Interests

Entering college with no friends and no interests might seem like a daunting task, but it is completely manageable with the right strategies. While many students naturally gravitate towards pre-existing clubs or organizations, those without defined interests can still thrive by finding new clubs that align with their goals and values.

Joining Clubs to Build Friendships

One of the best ways to meet and build friendships in college is to join clubs. Universities and colleges offer a wide variety of clubs and organizations—ranging from sports teams and band to ROTC, theater, and even church organizations like the Baptist Student Union or the Wesley Foundation. Even political groups provide a platform for connectivity. However, for some students, finding their own clubs can be challenging. Fraternities and sororities are also an excellent choice, but there are countless other club options available.

It's important to understand that not everyone is a “joiner.” Some individuals might resist organized social groups. But to truly get to know a lot of people in college, having a reason to spend time together is crucial. Being a member of a club provides that shared experience, making it easier to form bonds.

Starting Conversations in Classes

The best way to start a conversation in college is by starting a conversation. Engaging with classmates during lectures is a fantastic way to initiate and maintain friendships. It doesn't matter if you feel like you have nothing to talk about or no common interests. Being in the same classroom signifies shared experiences and challenges. Try to say hi to people in your class and introduce yourself. Soon, initiating these conversations will become natural, making new friends much easier.

Tackling Social Anxiety

Being in a room full of people you don't know can be incredibly intimidating. It's normal to feel nervous, but pushing past this fear is key to building social connections. Think of it like riding a roller coaster—initially scary but rewarding once you start. Remember, you have the strength to overcome these feelings. You've got this!

Basic Social Etiquette

When engaging with new people, it's important to follow some basic social etiquette. Start by making eye contact, but avoid staring for more than three seconds at a time, as this can be seen as invasive. Be friendly with a simple greeting and a friendly, non-intrusive question. Aim to connect on shared interests. If you're into fashion, complimenting someone's attire can be a great icebreaker. Keep things light and positive—sharing too much too soon can be off-putting. Let people earn your trust gradually.

Finding the Right Clubs

So, are there any clubs you are interested in? If so, consider joining one or volunteering for one that aligns with your interests. Like-minded individuals provide fantastic opportunities for building new friendships. Be open to the differences in others. College and university students are all navigating the search for their true selves without the influence of their parents. Embrace diversity and diversity of thought.

Conclusion

College can be an exciting and rewarding experience, especially when you make sensible friends along the way. By joining clubs, initiating conversations in classes, and maintaining basic social etiquette, you can build meaningful friendships in no time. Enjoy the journey! College is designed to be a great experience. Pick friends who are in sync with your values and goals.

-Mrs. Devine