Why Did My Ex-Narcissist Unblock Me on Social Media After So Long?

Recently, my soon-to-be-ex-husband, who is described as a narcissist, unblocked me on Facebook. We haven't spoken in over a year. It’s time to stop speculating about his motives. Here are some insights on why narcissists might unblock someone and the best approaches to protect yourself.

Understanding Narcissist Behavior

It's not uncommon for ex-narcissists to unblock you after a long period without contact. They might be trying to regain control, re-establish communication, or simply provoke a reaction. However, it's crucial to maintain your boundaries and prioritize your well-being.

Why Did He Unblock Me?

There could be various reasons why your ex-narcissist unblocked you. Here are some possibilities to consider:

To Watch You Again: Once you realize that your ex is a narcissist, it's best to keep your distance. If you're curious about why he unblocked you, try not to engage. He might have done it to watch you and see how you react. To Get Your Attention: If he's low on 'supply' (attention and validation), he might unblock you in hopes that you will contact him out of concern or to maintain your relationship. This is not a healthy or genuine reason to reconnect. To Abuse You Again: A narcissist unblocking you might be an attempt to abuse you for validation again. They use such re-engagement tactics to maintain a cycle of control and manipulation.

The Truth About Narcissists

Assuming he is indeed a narcissist and not just a self-absorbed person, 'ex-narcissist' is not an appropriate term. This person will never change, and it's important to understand that the disorder is permanent. Emotional deficits make any significant change impossible for a narcissist.

To understand the narcissist's mindset, you need to recognize that their brain function and emotional state are vastly different from yours. They do not have empathy, compassion, or love to give, nor do they have the capacity to love. This is why they seek out 'supply' from others to gain attention and validation.

What to Do Next?

The best course of action is to block him and maintain your boundaries. If you feel comfortable knowing that he can still see you, it's okay to let it be. However, if it's bothersome, re-blocking is necessary. Here are some steps to follow:

Block him on all social media platforms. Stay away from any form of communication with him. Educate yourself about narcissistic traits and behaviors using resources such as YouTube channels like Little Shaman. Seek professional help if you are dealing with trauma bonding or other related issues.

The relationship you had with your ex-narcissist taught you important lessons about self-love and boundaries. By focusing on these lessons, you can move forward and achieve success in your personal and professional life.

Note: Always prioritize your mental health and well-being. Remember, you deserve to be treated with respect and love.